"Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind... We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith." -- Margaret D. Nadauld

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Theories vs. Reality

Here's the theory:

Going on a tropical vacation with your husband
in the middle of winter
(sans children)
= (equals)
A week of paradise, with no worries
and 7 days of pure bliss.
To be truthful, I don't know if that is true or not. I haven't tested this particular theory out yet. But I can tell you that in the days/weeks that have led up to performing the experiment haven't been restful, paradisaical or peaceful.
Maybe it's because I'm a worrier. Maybe I'm a control freak. Maybe I'm too much of a homebody. But I'm totally freaked out about the part of the hypothesis where it says:
"sans children"
I have to ask: How do people who still have children at home, travel frequently without worrying themselves into an ulcer?
Maybe it gets easier with practice? I'm sure that's it. In the 17.5 years we've been parents, we can count on one hand (less actually) the amount of times we've both left them. And each time was difficult.
I've got all my bases covered. I've got great people who will watch them and take care of them: (Inigo more than Buttercup. She's old enough now that she just needs a warm body around to keep her company.... )
  • Inigo is lucky enough to go to a friend's house every day after school. Talk about paradise!! It's a dream come true for him to play with a friend every single day!!!
  • I have asked a very nice young lady to spend the night at our house and help get him to bed and get him ready to catch the bus in the morning.
  • We've worked out a sweet deal with Shack and Stinky for the weekends.
  • I have lists of people who offered help if needed (grandparents, aunts, friends....)

Seriously, things couldn't be aligned better. And yet, I'm worried and stressed about leaving them behind.

Woe is me, huh? And I'm really not complaining. I just find that the theory of leaving is much easier than the reality of leaving.

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(And I really need to learn html coding because when I wrote this, I had lots of spaces and paragraph breaks, but when it publishes, they all go away. Sorry if you find this difficult to read!)


Sarah Miller said...

Well hello!! It's been a while since we've heard from you! Just teasing ya, it sounds like you've been quite busy. But I do agree with you, the thoughts of leaving my kids behind don't exactly bring a sense of ease. The only time I've been away over night since having kids was when I had Chase. I think it's almost easier to deal with inconvenience of them with me than not. Oh well, I hope you have a good vacation!

Connie said...

The same here. We had 8 kids and we couldn't leave because no one wanted to watch them all!!
I worried, the 3 times we left them, but everything went well and I would wish I had relaxed more and not worried. I hope you have a great time and that you ARE able to relax and enjoy one another's company! Enjoy the warm weather!

Yvonne said...

O.K. So I must be a lousy mother because I worried but I STILL HAD A GREAT TIME. Of course, I always had a friend or someone I totally trusted in the house with them.

I hoe you have a wonderful time. Can't wait to hear all about it and see your amazing pictures.

gelly said...

Ooh...can't wait for all the pictures!! Absence simply makes the heart grow fonder.